On Monday, I got a haircut
and the lady there who was trying to make casual conversation with me first asked me how I wanted my hair done. Immediately after that, the default question she asked was as follows: “do you have a boyfriend?”
This struck me as a very bad question to ask. First of all, if I do have a boyfriend, how do you know I want to discuss my relationship with you? I just met you. Your next question will be “how long have you been dating him?” followed by some comment about your relationship and how you met and how it’s great to be in a relationship.
Second of all, if I don’t have a boyfriend, that would either make me feel like crap if I was sensitive or you would start another conversation about how it’s good to be single and “power to strong females!” or something like that.
Lastly, why would you assume I was straight? A better question would be “are you in a relationship?” or “do you have a significant other?” or something of the sort.
Or better yet, just ask me if I want to talk. I would have said no (not to be rude or anything, but to spare you the pain of asking small talk questions which I don’t care about anyway).
And I guess I should mention that I don’t intend to go back there because it’s not my normal hair cutting place (mine was closed over my fall break) and therefore I don’t have any intention on creating a relationship with you. That’s why I don’t want to talk. I love making casual conversation with my other hairdresser though!
On the other hand, thanks for being friendly, Anjie!
